Walking on the edge of fear
We all fear failure, we all fear taking the risk but what we should be really fearing is not failing and not taking that risk. Comfort zones are a very dangerous place to be!
Now i want to bring you all into this uncomfortable thought with me.
How many of us actually chase our dreams? We get stuck in a dead end job just because it pays the bills and gives us somewhat of a financial safety net. But does that really make us happy? Is this really what life is about. We work, we pay bills, we die?
Let me ask you a question…
Have you ever thought about what could have been? Or what could be?
Now I want you to think about your current situation and read that question again.
It’s a powerful question right?
When you really think about it and think about life, the opportunities are endless.
I found myself contemplating that question every single day, as I woke up at 5am for that 11hr a day, weekly, day to day grind that sucked the life out of my very being. I developed certain anxieties and stress levels went through the roof and all for what? Just so I had money?
I remember sitting there at my desk one day on autopilot mindlessly slaving away, working my ass off for a boss who was never there and didn’t have the slightest care about what went on.
Thinking... What on Earth am I doing?
This didn't make any sense to me, this wasn't me. But as i sat there preparing to resign and leave it all behind, fear crept up. Fear of not having the comfort of a steady job, fear of leaving that security behind was a scary thought.
But i thought to myself there's that word again! Comfort. I knew then that the word comfort was the key to all my fears and the main reason i hadn't chased my dreams earlier!
Boom! I handed in my resignation. Feeling empowered and excited for the next chapter of my life.
At that point i made my intentions clear to myself. To create a more independent and flexible lifestyle. I wanted to pursue and embrace my creative side, working on more projects and using my time to let out my creativity. With my passions of photography and writing going hand in hand i had a place to start.
Lets talk about the word comfort for a second. Comfort to many people can mean all things warm and fuzzy, a safe place, a place of physical ease.
Nowhere does it say a dangerous place, a place of physical discomfort.
Now add the word zone to the end of it. Comfort-zone.
And now we have a whole new meaning and way of thinking.
So whats the first thing that comes to mind when you think of the words comfort-zone? Does it make you uneasy? Good! because it should.
Way too many of us get stuck in it and don't know how to get out of it. We make excuses but really we just fear what's on the other side. Why do you think we hurt when a relationship ends with a partner, it's that comfort and familiarity that suddenly gets removed from your life.
Comfort is the common denominator for fear in our lives and why we don't end up chasing our dreams or life goals. We do sacrifice these dreams for a comfortable life and in effect losing what makes our souls come to life. The very part of us that makes us who we are.
So i asked myself...
If this flexible and independent lifestyle starts on the other side of your comfort zone, what do i do?
I meet people everyday who complain about their job but never do anything about it so If you're thinking about quitting your job and need that push, I've noted the top 4 things that i learnt and helped me make that leap.
Trust Your Gut
I found that your gut feeling can be a kind of inner guidance system and for most of us its very easy to ignore. The gut tells us more than we know and now's the time to listen to it. From anxieties to excitement, you feel it all in your gut. Try not to ignore those feelings.
There is no perfect time
The longer you wait, the more you'll keep putting it off. One of the hard truths i had to learn for myself and break out of. Breaking down those comfort zone barriers and taking that leap is the risk you've got to be brave enough to take.
I've seen people hit there 40's or 50's and one day just wake up and realized they've missed those opportunities.
The way i tell my friends is to "Grow some balls and jump" if you wait, it'll never happen.
Accept that you will feel uncomfortable
This one is a big one. Making big changes can bring a lot of anxiety and uncertainty. Resistance is actually the force that tries to prevent growth and transformation, and you're going to experience a lot of it when you start something new. This reverts back to the comfort zone and why most of us fear change. The same feelings as when you get home sick. Nobody ever in this life has grown by being comfortable, it doesn't happen.
And finally... Learn about yourself
Ever heard the term date yourself?
There's no better person to learn more about than yourself. Be your own cheerleader! Figure out what it is you truly want and design your lifestyle around that. To understand how you want to work, you first need to learn about yourself. Regardless of your motivation, I believe the process of transforming your life begins by making your work, work for you, don't let other people design your life for you.
On that note i'll leave you with one final thought.
Anyone who attempts is not a failure. Try again, fail again, fail better. Break a cycle, life isn't comfortable so neither should you.